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Happiness is a state of mind, at the very core of this whole work-life balance thing. When we are unhappy, our psyche shifts and we lose that drive to get things done.

We mope.

We cry.

We pity ourselves.

Or, maybe we don’t do anything at all.

This situation becomes even more severe, when we place our happiness in the hands of other people. We mistakenly believe that our friends, families or special someones create happiness for us, but they don’t.

Enhance, yes. Create, no.

We are the inventors of our happiness and unhappiness.

We choose our state of mind.

We get so caught up in this web of making things happen and graduating to that next level of success that we forget to take care of ourselves.

Today, I charge you with taking control of your happiness. Each day, make a conscious choice to do something for you.

Do something that makes you smile.

Are you saying…”Everyday? Clearly, she doesn’t know how busy I am!” Well guess what?

I’m busy too.

But,  I am joining you on this virtual challenge.

The key to controlling our happiness is making it independent of everyone else. For instance, if seeing a movie today would really put you in good spirits, then just do it. Don’t wait on your friends to hem and haw, about whether they can or they can’t. Just go.

Here are a few things that make me happy:

  • Lighting a candle
  • Writing in my journal or for the blog
  • Spending time with other people’s kids
  • Reading
  • Organizing a small section of my house
  • Giving myself an at-home facial
  • Watching movies
  • Helping others
  • Pickled okra, ranch sunflower seeds and cupcakes (don’t judge me).

What’s makes you happy?